Friend, not foe

by Admin on


Pro 17:17  Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.  (MSG.)


I have been taught to study and find out what scriptures say about every matter, and act upon what the rightly divided word says. I have also been taught, and proved thus far that for every situation, every challenge, there is a solution, guidance, and instruction in the Word.

Thought I should share this…what I’ve learnt about true friendship.

The people I appreciate the most are those who don’t think I’m too brilliant to be taught, who don’t feel I’m too spiritual to be corrected when I’m wrong; and who would point out my errors in a way that will clearly show that they want me to be better. I call them friends.

Friends know when and how to make you smile and laugh. Always with words of encouragement and hope, and from the scripture above, friends love at all times! Proverbs 18:24 says there’s a friend that sticks closer than a brother.

This is not a scale to use in judging others, but to charge up myself to be a true friend to others!

Truth is this, I’m not likely going to know what to say to a depressed person, or when and how to correct in love, if I do not pray for such a friend.

James 5:16  Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The intense prayer of the righteous is very powerful. (HCSB)

Can a friend tell me the terrible things he has done without any fear that I would judge or condemn him? Would I walk away, or would the love of Jesus be enough to make me stay, to pray for and with him, and let him know that all is not lost?

Can I always turn the gaze of my friends back to Jesus when they feel least qualified? And are there people who will do the same for me?


This is the love walk.

We have no right to try and correct people’s behaviours if we haven’t lifted them up to God first.

Casting Crowns sang “when we love, we earn the right to speak the truth; when we speak truth, we show the world we truly love…”

Can we, can I instead of pointing fingers, hold out a helping hand?

Can I seek to always add value to everybody that comes my way? (Prov 27:17…a man sharpens the countenance of his friend)


I am encouraging myself, and my friends to invest time to pray for our loved ones. I believe that each time Jesus withdrew to pray, he was praying for his friends, and in John 17 we have an inkling as to what he prayed about.

When your friends seem to be misbehaving, pray for them.

When they begin to snob you suddenly, pray for them instead of acting part 4 of “Two can play this game”

When they tell you to go away, you know it is time to stay closer.

When your friend gets into trouble even after you warned her, pray for her, encourage her; instead of saying those sinking words-“I told you so”

We will always appreciate friends who we can trust to not only share our joys and pains, but also offer a helping hand, or helping tongue as the case may be.

By the strength of the Spirit I choose to be a worthy friend, I choose to minister grace to all, I choose to build strong relationships with the people of the household of faith.

I walk the walk, I talk the talk, I live the life that has been given me!

Glory to God!


Adebayo Akande

(c) 2016

Written by: Admin

A firm believer in the grace-full finished works of Christ, a grateful beneficiary of God's never-ending grace, sights the good in all, gives the benefit of doubt always, hates Religion, loves the Lord. Medical doctor

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